I’m in the airport on Maui, waiting for my flight home. As you know (because you’ve been following this blog) I credit myself with having created this delightful holiday with my sister.
I’m convinced it came into being as a result of by conscious and deliberate choice to be a happier person. The theory is that the happier we are, the more we attract circumstances designed to increase our happiness and by golly, it works! This leads to the question: Just how much happiness can we attract by being deliberatly happy?
Is there a limit to how much happiness we can attract by being deliberately happy?
I imagine this mood-raising work as a sort of metaphorical ladder. Each rung represents a mood or feeling that’s slightly higher and pleasanter than the one below. If there are 100 rungs, then I’ve spent most of my life on rungs 35 - 55. Occasionally I have accidentally clambered up higher or slipped down lower, but for the most part, I live in the familiar 35-sh to 55-ish mood.
Talk about boring!
That’s why I decided to climb up into a higher, happier zone this year. I hauled myself up to a rung that included my sister’s invitation to join her on for a week of beaches and sunshine. Nice! And it only took about three months. It makes me wonder what will happen after six months or a year of continually reminding myself, I choose to feel happy. I foresee two possibilities:
A. I attract more circumstances and events that are equivalent to this holiday OR
B. I attract things that are even more richly larded with the potential for nourishing feelings of happiness.
Frankly, I’m hoping for B. To be ungraciously honest, much as I appreciate the warmth and beauty of the island and enjoy my sister's company, I really wished tht my family (himself, our kids, the grandbaby) were here too, and that polluted my happiness. Darn.
Makes me wonder if 100% pure, unadulterated happiness is even possible. Off the top of my head, I cannot recall ...
Wait a minute! I lie; I do recall TWO incidences of unadulterated happiness: the birth of my babies. Despite all the painful messiness of childbirth, the first time I held each of those tender newborns, I experience nothing other than pure, blissful joy.
My initial failure-to-recall those two blissful moments as well as many other good and happy times is typical of we who habitually occupy the mid-to-lower rungs of our metaphoric ladder. It’s an excellent way to stop ourselves from getting all inappropriately happy and jolly.
Back to our initial question:
A or B, What Will Happen if I Continue to Choose Happiness?
My hope is that the experiences and circumstances I attract will become even better than this Hawaiian holiday. That hope brings up another question: How can I assure that I will attract even better? The only answer I come up with is: Dwell upon, talk about, remember the good stuff, and only the good stuff. In short, if I want to hang out on the higher rungs of the emotional ladder, I must, must, practice Mental Discipline.
Oh well. the horror of Mental discipline is a small price to pay for a life of happiness, which is what I intend to live. Even if this year of choosing happiness bring me nothing better (!) than this Hawaiian holiday, it will be an upgrade from the last 70+ years. I’m so up for that!
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They’re starting to load my plane for the trip home. Goodbye lovely Maui, it’s been Fabulous.
All the Best Always, Elaine