I’ve been re-reading Chapter 7 in The Science of Getting Rich (SGR). (Not familiar with it? Here's the Free PREVIEW.)
The title of Chapter 7 is GRATITUDE.
This isn’t the first time that I’ve been that if I want to experience Success, told I must feel gratitude. Frankly, I’m not really wild about this requirement. I have trouble with the whole Gratitude concept. I hear my mother’s voice:
“You’d better be grateful,” she’d say, “or that may be the last thing anyone ever gives you.” Sounds pretty much like a threat, doesn’t it? Be grateful - or else, we were told. Then we had to sit down at the kitchen table and write those blasted Thank-you notes to the distant relatives who’d sent us gifts we didn’t even like. Small wonder that I have some reservations about this practice. I didn’t like being told I had to be grateful then, and I still don’t like it now.
“NO WAY!” my inner rebel screams, “I don’t care if it’s a prerequisite for success. I refuse to feel gratitude. I’m not gonna’, and you can’t make me!”
Maybe you’ve experienced some of this same rebellion. It places us firmly on the sharp horns of a dilemma.
On one hand, we’ve got all these unpleasant, low-vibe memories about being forced to feel gratitude, or at the very least, to pretend we felt it.
On the other hand, we’d sort of like to feel thankful for what we’ve got, especially since every money-mindset guru in the world agrees with Mom: The attitude of gratitude is an indispensable requirement. That being the case, I’m willing to take my inner rebel to task over this. There must be a way for me to be grateful, without all these inner reservations. Hmmm….
Appreciation is close to Gratitude, and I do know how to appreciate things. I remember an Art Appreciation teacher saying, a long time ago, that “You won’t love every piece of Art I’ll show you, but you will learn why some people DO like it, and why they’re glad it’s in the world.”
That’s what Appreciation is to me: Gladness that something exists here in my world. It’s a slightly different emotion from Gratitude, with a somewhat different vibration, but it is a place to start. Appreciation means looking at what’s in our lives - the trees silhouetted against the sky, the clothes in our closets, the cars we drive - and being aware of what’s good about them.
When I do that, it grounds me in the moment, the Now. I feel and experience the good that is in my life, right now. This is a great feeling! It might not be Gratitude, but it is a high vibration state of being, for sure. I like it.
As well as grounding me in the Now, Appreciation also invites me to look outward, away from my immediate experience to the Source and Creator of these delightful things. I find myself awash in - yes, you guessed it - Gratitude. Not the forced gratitude that my poor Mom expected
but to something much more free-flowing and pleasurable. I feel connected to the source of all this goodness, and if that means I’ll get more of it, that works for me too. It is enough, however, simply to enjoy these lovely feelings, whether or not they affect my future as the gurus predict.
I like the sensation of Appreciation. I also like where it takes me: to a sense of Gratitude that has heretofore eluded me.
Sincerely, Elaine H
PS: I’d love to hear all about your experiences as you play with Appreciation and Gratitude. Do tell!
This time, it’s not a novel.
Instead, it is a revision of a famously influential money-mindset classic.
The Science of Getting Rich was initially published more than a century ago, in 1910 - back in the bad old days when gender-bias was the cultural norm.
It was a wonderful book, full of mind-changing, life-changing ideas about money, wealth and riches, but the first time I tried to read it, I ended up flinging it across the room in a fit of feminist ire!
The book was written by a man, for men, about men. I suppose the author assumed that the rest of us wouldn't be interested - or something. Ignoring half the population was just the cultural norm, but reading about how a man should think certainly didn't resonate with me. Au contraire! It affronted me. Darn! I'd heard so many enlightened and highly-successful people (aka, men) credit this book with changing their minds about money, with putting them on the paths that led eventually to their success. I knew I needed that mental shift just as much as any brother, but I sure wasn't going to get it with the book as it stood. So - I rewrote it.
A bold move? Yes perhaps, but my plan was to make this 'new book' a one-off, for my own private library. I knew how to use Amazon's publishing system to create a print-on-demand book, and since the manuscript is in the public domain I could make myself a more readable versions of the Science without breaking any copyright laws. Well and good! I would make myself a version that would speak to me on the same deep level it did to those guys.
By the time I was done, and holding the proof copy of my 'inclusive version' of the Science of Getting Rich in my hand, I knew I had something that I needed to get into the hands of anyone else who wanted a copy.
Interested? Intrigued? Thought you might be, so I created this PREVIEW LINK so you can read Chapter One (plus the introduction and the original preface) for FREE! (Don’t we love FREE? I sure do.
Enjoy! Elaine H