One of this blog's followers recently accused me (bless her heart) of wanting to make other folks be happier.
“Don’t expect me to pretend I’m happy!” she said emphatically. “I feel how I feel, and that’s how I’m going to feel.”
I understand where she’s coming from. Like her, I usually dig in my heels when other people start telling me what I ought to do.
So, I want to make one thing really, really clear:
This Blog isn't meant to tell anyone
(other than me-myself)
to be happy or happier.
This experiment is not about other people. I’m not about to venture into telling YOU what to do or how to feel. Nope, no way. This here blog is purely and completely all about me.
We all have the right to feel how we feel, think what we think, believe what we believe, and live as we want to live. It’s a personal choice. There’s a certain Fizz about experiencing life fully, as it happens, without trying to control it.
On the other hand, it's kind of interesting, isn't it, to see if we can change a dominant emotional state? It could be anything. Instead of happier, I might have chosen to feel more prosperous, or more compassionate, or more _______________(fill in the blank). The process would be much the same. For me, it goes like this:
First, develop an awareness of how we feel, on a daily, hourly, even minute-by-minute basis. The rubber hits the road when we check in with ourselves and notice that we are experiencing something other than our desired feeling. That’s the moment of choice.
Is it easy to exercise the choice? In all honesty, I have to say not for me, not this week,.
My problem is a plague of forgetfulness. I literally forget that I want to be happier. I find myself wallowing in other, far less enjoyable, feelings. Worse yet, there’s a part of me that wants to stay in that nice mucky stinky disgusting familiar comfortable mire. Don’t tell me what to do!
Unfortunately, darn it, I committed myself to this blog about making myself happier, so I can’t allow myself to wallow around here in this so-familiar muck.
I have to find a way, or ways, of pulling myself out. Got suggestions? What do you do (if or when) you want to feel cheerier? All suggestions welcome! Add them in COMMENTS below.
Happy Today, Elaine
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