I’ve been re-reading Chapter 7 in The Science of Getting Rich (SGR). (Not familiar with it? Here's the Free PREVIEW.)
The title of Chapter 7 is GRATITUDE.
This isn’t the first time that I’ve been that if I want to experience Success, told I must feel gratitude. Frankly, I’m not really wild about this requirement. I have trouble with the whole Gratitude concept. I hear my mother’s voice:
“You’d better be grateful,” she’d say, “or that may be the last thing anyone ever gives you.” Sounds pretty much like a threat, doesn’t it? Be grateful - or else, we were told. Then we had to sit down at the kitchen table and write those blasted Thank-you notes to the distant relatives who’d sent us gifts we didn’t even like. Small wonder that I have some reservations about this practice. I didn’t like being told I had to be grateful then, and I still don’t like it now.
“NO WAY!” my inner rebel screams, “I don’t care if it’s a prerequisite for success. I refuse to feel gratitude. I’m not gonna’, and you can’t make me!”
Maybe you’ve experienced some of this same rebellion. It places us firmly on the sharp horns of a dilemma.
On one hand, we’ve got all these unpleasant, low-vibe memories about being forced to feel gratitude, or at the very least, to pretend we felt it.
On the other hand, we’d sort of like to feel thankful for what we’ve got, especially since every money-mindset guru in the world agrees with Mom: The attitude of gratitude is an indispensable requirement. That being the case, I’m willing to take my inner rebel to task over this. There must be a way for me to be grateful, without all these inner reservations. Hmmm….
Appreciation is close to Gratitude, and I do know how to appreciate things. I remember an Art Appreciation teacher saying, a long time ago, that “You won’t love every piece of Art I’ll show you, but you will learn why some people DO like it, and why they’re glad it’s in the world.”
That’s what Appreciation is to me: Gladness that something exists here in my world. It’s a slightly different emotion from Gratitude, with a somewhat different vibration, but it is a place to start. Appreciation means looking at what’s in our lives - the trees silhouetted against the sky, the clothes in our closets, the cars we drive - and being aware of what’s good about them.
When I do that, it grounds me in the moment, the Now. I feel and experience the good that is in my life, right now. This is a great feeling! It might not be Gratitude, but it is a high vibration state of being, for sure. I like it.
As well as grounding me in the Now, Appreciation also invites me to look outward, away from my immediate experience to the Source and Creator of these delightful things. I find myself awash in - yes, you guessed it - Gratitude. Not the forced gratitude that my poor Mom expected
but to something much more free-flowing and pleasurable. I feel connected to the source of all this goodness, and if that means I’ll get more of it, that works for me too. It is enough, however, simply to enjoy these lovely feelings, whether or not they affect my future as the gurus predict.
I like the sensation of Appreciation. I also like where it takes me: to a sense of Gratitude that has heretofore eluded me.
Sincerely, Elaine H
PS: I’d love to hear all about your experiences as you play with Appreciation and Gratitude. Do tell!